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The Last Iron Man

June 24th, 2011 barryminimum No comments

We’ll just skip over all the excuses about how abysmal I’ve been at blogging in 2011, ok? It’s embarrassing, frankly.

But I wanted to direct anyone who hasn’t completely given up on me to this phenomenal story in the New York Times:

The Last Iron Man.

This article reduced me to tears in my cubicle. Straight up. I realized that I had been avoiding this blog, you all, and my mission because I was trying to force myself to accept my limitations. I was trying to force myself to accept that my athletic pursuits could only ever be therapeutic—never for leisure or pure pleasure. I’ve been trying to accept that I should give up on ever running, riding a bike, or learning to box.  I was trying to be content to embrace fitness merely to maintain function and stay strong. And I was failing, miserably. The envy was just about killing me—watching other people run their first 5K after a month of training, take up rock climbing for the heck of it, or embark on a century ride because they can.

Reading about this dude, I am deeply ashamed of myself. Seriously Bee? You’re going to complain about the limits other people put on you while erecting huge stumbling blocks for yourself? So you won’t ever be able to do things as easily as many people. Big freaking deal. Since when has that stopped you? Get over yourself already. Your way has–by necessity—never been other people’s way. And your way has gotten you pretty far in the world. It’s not been the easiest way, or the most elegant way, but you got here didn’t you?

Do yourself a favor, wait until you actually *hit* the roadblock before stopping, ok? Limits are for pushing, defying and generally ignoring. . .New training regimen as of Monday—complacency is off the menu.

Notes to Barry, Aged 16

September 26th, 2010 barryminimum 2 comments

This week in Dan Savage’s column Savage Love, I read about a 15-year old Indiana teenager who committed suicide recently after being mercilessly bullied for being gay.  I was touched—ok, reduced to tears—by the out-pouring of support from gay, lesbian, and transgendered adults, and their friends who wished they could have told the boy, Billy Lucas: “No matter how bad things are right now, life gets better.” You can check out the video project here:

http://www.youtube.com/itgetsbetterproject

Warning: You’ll need some tissues.

Billy Lucas isn’t the only one, either—we’ve all seen the Breakfast Club, we know that bullying isn’t about the flavor of your difference, just the difference itself. There have been several cases in recent years of teenagers committing suicide after being bullied online by classmates (or even by the parents of classmates!). All this got me to thinking about the wisdom I wish I had had as a teenager or young adult about coping with being different. Read more…